நீ விழுந்தால் ஊன்றி எழ உன் உடலுக்கு தரை,உன் மனதுக்கு நான் - கிருஷ்ணர்
maatram adhu anaivarukum podhuvaanadhu yen naangal maaravilaiyaa..mahanai,thozlanai,kanavanaai,thandhaiyaai...its biased naan othukollamaaten.. Changes is inevitable.. Everyone will loose thier identity as life changes with time..
@neigh, mattram anaivarukkum undu, i agree, aanal ithanal pathikapaduvathu pengal thaan athigam. mukiammaga after marriage.intha kavidhai appadipatta pengalai vaithu naan ezhuthiyathu. so aangal out of focus.
veda,nalla irukku..well saidpengal thaan athikama mattrangalal affect avanka compared to man...
veda,gud one...I donno how, this and the prev post in this blog, varikalil nalla muthirchi... varthaikalil vithiyasam... romba nalla irukku...
idhu kootu sathi... naan othu kollavae maataen...kalyaanathu appuram aanum seri pennum seri renduperidaamum maatram irukum. "Mutual sharing"Only thing I can accept from your side is after marriage womens have to leave their family but not men. Indha kaalathula "piraka oru oor pilaika oru oor" Most of us are staying out of our family so idhuvum kuranchitaa varudhu...
hmm. i agree with you little bit.. its girls who undergo more changes that guys after marriage. good post..
@neigh, u dont understand. i am not talking abt change in place and leaving families behind. i am talking abt change in priorities. most of the women leave behind their talents after marriage. i am not talking abt women who do that themselves, but women who are compelled to do so. but ungal karuthaiyum naan vothukolgiren. aanal athu veru ,ithu veru. thirumanathirku piragu, than "suyathai" izhakkum pengale ingu athigam. naalai en nilamaiyum apdi aagi vida koodathu, enra en aathangathaleye, intha kavithai. @ammu, hi i could not comment on ur blog?!@kannan,ramesh, nanri and keep visiting. i am encouraged by ur words, though i have not reached a good place in writing.i try to reach it.
என்றும் அழியா வானமாய்இரு ஆனால்வானம் போல் புதிராய்இராதே.
Veda, I understand your point when I read ur kavithai for the first time itself. I cant fight against your thoughts bcos its true to some extent but not majority (in present generation).
pengallukku athigamana bathippu nu sonna na othukka matten. There are several gals who nod their head to the guy whom their parents show.. en oruthanai kattikarom. will he let me do what I want.. ithai ellam patri pala pengal yosikarthe illa. Amma appa naala paayana dhan paarpanga nu ok sollidarathu. Ofcourse I dont blame their trust on their parents but they can atleast make it clear that they want to pursue their carrier etc.. And in many cases they do not even try to convince their hubbies. And yeah I many cases as u say they forego their talents etc not bcoz of their hubbies but coz of their inlaws.. who are too traditional.. in most cases it is the MAMIYAAR. Pennukku pen dhan ethiri. Thavamai thavam irunthathu paarthinga illa.. guys to lose out a lot and its not as easy as you think.. to take all responsibilities.. "Oru idathil oruvagum megam ..Ver idam selvathu.. pozhi vatharkuthan.."Maatrathil thavaru illa.. but ethukku marugirom enbathu than mukkiyam.. if its true love.. then neither the gal nor the guy will feel it as a sacrifice. Thts why I think we shld, think abt why we are marrying some one?
@vishy, yes i agree guys are also affected, aana intha idathil naan oru pennin konathil irunthu thaan ezhuthiyullen. gals jus dont nod to their parents selection of groom nowadays, at the same time in case of arranged marriages, they cannot jus judge their would-bes in jus few meetings. penukku penney ethiri enpathu oru uruvakkapatta poi, ithil debate panna start panninomna thaniya oru blogey start pannanum. thavamai thavamirunthu padathil, oru aan pala ezhapugalai santhikkiran enbadhai azhaga sitharithirukkirargal. sacrificing career for family(most of the women do that) is not a bad thing, i have mentioned it in the comment to neighbour. what i am talking abt is the women whose talents are suppressed by the family, u cannot blame the inlaws alone, even her parents can do that.
@neigh, i am considering this as fight of thoughts yaar. this is jus a healthy arguement. always healthy arguements lead to good thinking. so keep arguing and let us think good always,yaar.
@neigh, read 'i am considering this as fight of thoughts yaar' as 'i am not considering this as a fight of thoughts'
veda, what u say holds good for illeterate or rural soceity...but wen u come to the city,i agree with neighbor's argument...World is changing fast with women getting educated and empowered...in today's modern world ,change is common for both men and women...Its just that women are more expressive about it..
hmmm..... u already mentioned in vishys comments that you have written this in a womens point of view. So idhu oru penin thani patta karuthunu eduthukitaa naan onnum sollarathu illai..If it is generalised to all then we have a lot to discuss.. oru karutharnga nadathalaaam.. neegal sollaradhu oru kaalathil irundhirukalaam aaanal ippovellam adhu kuranchitu thaan varudhunu solluvaen.. seri.. kalyaanthuku appuram yethanai per thanikudthinam pooranga parthirupeenga... yennu oru naalavadhu yosichu parthiuppengalaa... ithanai varusamaa amma appa kooda thaan irunthaan - oru ponnu vandha vudanae enna maatram... oru aan evalavu kanavugal vachuirunthaalum..kalyaanathuku apuram than kudumbathukaaga mara vediyaa kattaayam iruuku... than manaivi sandhoosam irukanum, than kulandhai kastamuna ennae theriyaama valaranum, samuthaayathula oru statusku varanumu than avanooda muthal kurikoola irukum. avan kanavugalai kudumabathirkaaga thulaithu viduvaan.. idhu thaan adigam nadakirathu.. podhuvaaga aangal ithai veliyae solla maatargal.. neega veeunnaalum unga appa kita keatu paarunga avarum sila thiramaigalai thulaithiukalaam.idhu varaikum naamma samudhaayathula naame kelvi pataathellam "penurimai vendumra" gosham thaan.. it means that idhuvaraikum urimaiyae illaadha mathiri project pannuvaanga... U know avungalaku urimai illainaa ippadi publica vandhu goosham pooda mudiyaadhuuu... its all publicity stunt..kalyaanathu appuram perumbaalum pengal thaan identity loose pannaraangu naan othukavae maataen.. Kalyaanam enpadhu "Mutual Sharing" - sacrifice is a part of it. angu "Naan" "Nee" ra varthaikalku idaame illai "Naam" enra vaarthai mattum thaan nilaithu irukum.
@neigh, en arumai nanbane, naan sollum karuthukal oru penin nilamayil irunthu paarthal mattume unaku puriyum. thani kudithanam povathu enbathu totally different aspect, ithuku ivalo feel panreengale, naanga kalam kalama enga appa,amma-va pirunju thane varom. aangalum thangal priorities-a vittu kodukaranga enbathil enaku matru karuthu illai, ennudaiya vadham ellam, intha vishayathil badhikapaduvathu perumbalum pengale. athu ungaluku oru pennai irunthu paarthal matume puriyum. ' penurimai' enbathu publicity stunt enru neengal solvathu unmai alla. samudayathil pirpatta makkalukaga eppadi arasangam pala thittangalai arivikiraargalo, athu pola thaan ithuvum. there are many magalir amaipugal and ladies clubs doing a lot of help for the empowerment of not women alone, but as a society as whole. penurimai iyakkangalai patri ippdi poiyana karuthugalai parapuvathu cinema ponra udagangale!
thani kudithanam povathu enbathu totally different aspect, ithuku ivalo feel panreengale, naanga kalam kalama enga appa,amma-va pirunju thane varomithai thaan naal angu solla vandhaen.. say oru aanuku avan petroorkalai pirindhu thani kudithanam poga vendum enra kataayam naama samudhaayathil kidaiyaadhu.. irundhaalum avan en porranu yosichu paarungaa.. adhu avan manaiviyaal vandha maatramaaga thaan irukum..So u made a check point that I will come to know abt this only if I'm a women. Now its stealmate not checkmate. I cant move further..hope you know abt stealmate and checkmate.. terms used in chess.
//adhu avan manaiviyaal vandha maatramaaga thaan irukum..// intha maatrangal mutual-a irunthal enna prachnai. //Now its stealmate not checkmate. I cant move further..// no its not. its the fact. all i could say that the probs of women are still there and they survive in spite of that.thanks so much for making this as an healthy arguement. i can imagine u saying"intha ponnu ethu sonnalam vothukamatenguthu". jus kidding. keep visiting.
appadi yellam naan onnum nenachuka maatane.. alla kedachaa pesikita irupaen... Naan en manasaku patathae pesiduvaen adhu enngayaanalum seri I dont bother abt that. sandai kandippaga thodarum...
@neigh, u are welcome,yaar.
/கொஞ்சம் நீயாகவும் இரு!மாறும் இயல்பில்,உன் இயல்பை மறக்காதே,மறைக்காதே.மாறும் இயல்புடையமேகமாய் இல்லாமல்,என்றும் அழியா வானமாய் இருந்து விடு./சரியாக சொன்னீர்கள்!வளைந்து கொடுப்பதற்கும் முற்றிலும் மாறிப்போவதற்கும் வேறுபாடு உண்டு!
Dear Vedha,Matrankal manida iyalbu ithil anentro pnnentro kidayathu,matraththal penkal mattum pathikiraargal entra unkalathu ennam thavaranathu.ankalum than penkalin matraththaal perithum pathikkirargal. atharkaga nankal unkalaipola kavithai punaivathu illai,iruppinum unkal kavithai arumai.
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